What is above and below the waist?

This question especially if asked about women seems very obscene and inconvenient to answer. It is embarrassing to answer such question in public for any social person with utter common sense.

I have been asked this question by one of my friend and despite of all of the embarrassment I would dare to answer it.

In the female anatomy, the below waste part is a part of body which gives the birth to a child. You may call it wonder of nature or miracle of the god that human fetus gets developed in it. Under best natural temperature and circumstances.The human race would not have been in existence had this part of the body was unavailable.

After a research worth billion of dollars, Scientists have recently been able to understand and simulate the exact development of whole human body.
But despite of all the effort the modern science hasn’t been able to reproduce the complete Artificial life.

Now answering the second part of the question, Which is what is above the waist, The above the waist port of a female human body is called mammary glands.The mammary glands are accessory organs of the female reproductive system that are specialized to secrete milk following pregnancy.

Talking from a human perspective , It is the first thing a new born baby feels in the world. It is the organ which keeps an infant alive and protect from all different infections for first six months.Practically speaking, Blessed are the female as they are blessed with ability to give birth to a new life.

We man cant do so no matter how hard we try!!!!!

I am sure my friend who has asked me this question would have experienced the same feeling during the infanthood.It is just that they are adult now and don’t need these organs to stay alive anymore, So have started making fun of them.

The female body is NOT the matter of joke. It is NOT a toy or video game which is played and thrown once it gets outdated or don’t give pleasure anymore.

The heart and soul comes along with it.

So all those guys out there who make fun of pregnant women or ladies private part.Please pause for a while and think if any word of this HTML text makes sense to you.

With Best Regards,
-A mad guy

The ordinary definition of extraordinary

There is a lot has been said and written about the greatness of big leaders. People while delivering lecture often give the example of so called “Great leaders”. Whenever there is any leader’s birthday or death anniversary we, the common people are told to follow there ideals and principles.

That’s ridiculous. If everyone starts becoming leader who is going to be follower. Who is going to be common man. No body would be and no body wants to be.

No one finds common man interesting. They are feared that they may not tolerate the pain and agony which a common man does every passing day.

No one is going to salute them. They wont be having any priority over any body then how will they fulfill there week self esteem.

Has anyone taken a time out to think about common man. The patience, the continuity and persistence of common man. Living in those common conditions require the uncommon greatness.

Who can not rule the country if given the prime minister's power , with all the protection , support , police and body guards.

But can they dare becoming common man. Do they have courage to lead a common man’s life leave aside the people of country? Do they have ability to run a poor house with family when prices are soaring high. It’s highly convenient to sit on a cozy sofa and give statement to media that its international prices to be blamed for.

Dare to tell this to your child when he needs school fee and your pocket is set ablaze, or blame international prices when your better half is hoping for long awaited saree on this deevali at least (An Indian festival ,Celebrated once in an year).

Let me tell our great leaders and their greater parties with greatest ideologies that it takes extra ordinary courage to face these ordinary challenges. You engage in an inner battle on every situation, every decision of yours, decides the future of yours and your family.


Try to become common man for one day and you will forget your great political challenges of years.A crush of reality will bring your wings on earth in no time.


With Pride and Regards,
A Common Man.

What makes an effective executive?

The measure of the executive is the ability to "get the right things done".This usually involves doing what other people have overlooked as well as avoiding what is unproductive.

Intelligence , imagination , and knowledge may all be wasted in an executive job without the acquired habits of mind that mold them into results.

There are five practical essentials as per Peter F. Drucker essential to business effectiveness that can , and must be learned:

1. Managing Time
2. Choosing what to contribute to the organization.
3. Knowing where and how to mobilize strength for best effect.
4. Setting the right priorities.
5. Knitting them all together with effective decision-making.


What made them the most effective executives is the way they follow these eight practices :

1. They asked, "What needs to be done?"
2. They asked,"What is right for the enterprise?"
3. They developed action plans.
4. They took responsibility for decisions.
5. They took responsibility for communicating.
6. They were focused on opportunities rather than problems.
7. They ran productive meetings.
8. They thought and said "we" rather than "I"

Ten Habits of Incompetent Managers

Bias against action:There are always plenty of reasons not to take a decision, reasons to wait for more information, more options, more opinions. But real leaders display a consistent bias for action. People who don’t make mistakes generally don’t make anything. Legendary ad man David Ogilvy argued that a good decision today is worth far more than a perfect decision next month. Beware prevaricators.

Secrecy: "We can’t tell the staff," is something I hear managers say repeatedly. They defend this position with the argument that staff will be distracted, confused or simply unable to comprehend what is happening in the business. If you treat employees like children, they will behave that way — which means trouble. If you treat them like adults, they may just respond likewise. Very few matters in business must remain confidential and good managers can identify those easily. The lover of secrecy has trouble being honest and is afraid of letting peers have the information they need to challenge him. He would rather defend his position than advance the mission. Secrets make companies political, anxious and full of distrust.

Over-sensitivity: "I know she’s always late, but if I raise the subject, she’ll be hurt." An inability to be direct and honest with staff is a critical warning sign. Can your manager see a problem, address it headlong and move on? If not, problems won’t get resolved, they’ll grow. When managers say staff is too sensitive, they are usually describing themselves. Wilting violets don’t make great leaders. Weed them out. Interestingly, secrecy and over-sensitivity almost always travel together. They are a bias against honesty.

Love of procedure: Managers who cleave to the rule book, to points of order and who refer to colleagues by their titles have forgotten that rules and processes exist to expedite business, not ritualize it. Love of procedure often masks a fatal inability to prioritize — a tendency to polish the silver while the house is burning.

Preference for weak candidates: We interviewed three job candidates for a new position. One was clearly too junior, the other rubbed everyone up the wrong way and the third stood head and shoulders above the rest. Who did our manager want to hire? The junior. She felt threatened by the super-competent manager and hadn’t the confidence to know that you must always hire people smarter than yourself.

Focus on small tasks: Another senior salesperson I hired always produced the most perfect charts, forecasts and spreadsheets. She was always on time, her data completely up-to-date. She would always volunteer for projects in which she had no core expertise — marketing plans, financial forecasts, meetings with bank managers, the office move. It was all displacement activity to hide the fact that she could not do her real job.

Allergy to deadlines: A deadline is a commitment. The manager who cannot set, and stick to deadlines, cannot honor commitments. A failure to set and meet deadlines also means that no one can ever feel a true sense of achievement. You can’t celebrate milestones if there aren’t any.

Inability to hire former employees: I hired a head of sales once with (apparently) a luminous reputation. But, as we staffed up, he never attracted any candidates from his old company. He’d worked in sales for twenty years — hadn’t he mentored anyone who’d want to work with him again? Every good manager has alumni, eager to join the team again; if they don’t, smell a rat.

Addiction to consultants: A common — but expensive — way to put off making decisions is to hire consultants who can recommend several alternatives. While they’re figuring these out, managers don’t have to do anything. And when the consultant’s choices are presented, the ensuing debates can often absorb hours, days, months. Meanwhile, your organization is poorer but it isn’t any smarter. When the consultant leaves, he takes your money and his increased expertise out the door with him.

Long hours: In my experience, bad managers work very long hours. They think this is a brand of heroism but it is probably the single biggest hallmark of incompetence. To work effectively, you must prioritize and you must pace yourself. The manager who boasts of late nights, early mornings and no time off cannot manage himself so you’d better not let him manage anyone else.

Any one of these behaviours should sound a warning bell. More than two — sound the alarm!

Thank you very much for humiliation and disrespect

This interesting story is one my friend. After seeing it closely I strongly feel that it should be shared across.

The incident took place five years before in Delhi. When this friend of mine named Ravi was searching for the job. He had been a brilliant student and a topper in his college .He had studied his school from Hindi medium and was not much conformable with spoken English.

Those days finding a job was really difficult. Since outsourcing had just started.There were call centers getting mushroomed. He told me that he used to attend one or two interviews daily in the hot summer of Delhi. Many a times he would walk for kilometers to reach to interview place as he didn’t t really have enough money those days.

Having stayed in Delhi my self, Let me tell you that it’s really difficult to walk for even 100 meters in hot weather. This city is full of humidity and makes you sweat the minute you go out.

But I know my friend; he was as stubborn as bull. He never believed in giving up on life. There used to be very less software jobs available those days. So this guy decided to try his luck in the call center Jobs also in spite of having Honors degree in Engineering.

Once there was a job interview going on in one of the famous hotel of Delhi called, Hotel Samrat.

He reached there on time and realized that room was filled with interview candidates. He started waiting patiently for his turn.

There was a lady sitting behind table and calling each candidate one by one.
Since interviews were being held in the same room in which everyone was sitting He could hear them clearly .He realized with her tone that she was getting more and more irritated with every passing hour.

He started talking to the candidate sitting right beside him to get comfortable. After talking for some time he discovered the fact which made him more uncomfortable was , most of the candidates sitting there were experienced and were working already in other call centers.

Some had come in hope of salary increase or quick promotions.

After waiting for three to four hours, the lady called his name loudly. He wished his presence with modesty.

The lady took a moment to read his resume and knew immediately that she was interviewing a fresher with no experience of call center.

She started her interview with the common question like describing himself.

Ravi started with all his concentration and might but lady was having a malice smile. She wasn’t even listening to him completely and kept interrupting in between.

To make the interview more difficult she gave him topic and told Ravi to speak on it for five minutes. Ravi tried his best to talk about it as good as he could.

She stopped him in between and this time she was completely out of patience. She faced all the candidates and to humiliate Ravi shouted, you don’t know E of English. You can never work in this industry .This Job is not for the idiot like you.

Our guy was in the dire need of job so requested her to give him one more chance. But lady had decided to exhaust all of her frustration on him.

This time she asked him for another job which is to sell the insurance. She said “I doubt if you can even sell them. It requires tongue in the mouth”

The last words were quite loud. There was a roar of laughter among other candidates. They had started throwing comments on him.

Ravi was still calm and composed. He didn’t look moved from this scene. He reckoned that it was useless to ask her for job and moved towards gate hearing the next candidate name as soon as he turned his back.

To Ravi’s surprise the candidate didn’t answer call of his name. After coming out of hotel, Ravi asked this candidate, why he didn’t attempt the interview. The candidate was shaken and stunned. He told him that in spite of his experience in call center he was too afraid to face the interviewer. He could not gather courage to face the lady after seeing the kind of humiliation Ravi had.

He also asked Ravi that where he was going to search for the job as he too believed that Ravi was not suitable for the call center industry.

Ravi smiled and left for home. While coming back to home he decided that he was not letting anybody else tell what he can or can’t do.

To everybody’s surprise He called me and told me that he had decided to make his career in the call center Industry. Being a good friend of him I tried my best to convinced him otherwise but in vain. I knew his determination since school time, so I gave up and prayed for him.

Many weeks passed after this incident took place. I was too busy with my own job being a fresher myself.


After two months I got a call from Ravi with a cheerful voice. He was sounding the happiest person on earth. He had got the job in one of the most respected outsourcing center with hefty salary.

I was really shocked to know that this person spent whole two months preparing English and taking call center interviews. Before his one successful interview he had faced almost 90 face to face interviews.

My tongue had stuck tp pallet ; I had no words to tell him. I was extremely happy and surprised to hear this great news. I was dying to know what made him to struggle so hard in extreme conditions .His reply was astonishing. His words were


Thank you very much for humiliation and disrespect I received that day!!!!


Till the time this story was written, I have heard that he is leading a whole team in Tech support center, where he is not only using his ingenious language skills but Engineering skills as well.

It’s really hard to believe seeing him winning outstanding achievement award for customer satisfaction.

I think in the life we all go through many failures, disappointments and critics. Nevertheless the only person who knows what we can or can’t do is we ourselves.

Why Vivekananda is My Workplace Guru

“When you are doing any work , don’t think of anything beyond. Do it…as the highest worship, and devote you whole life to it for the time being.”. The monk who said this,Vivekananda was anything but impractical. His spiritual strength, sharp intellect and relentless work gave him insights that could impact corporate work culture as much as they enrich monastic life.

Whether our sphere of work or place in the corporate hierarchy .few among us would describe our job as easy .preoccupied with what we have to do from one work day to another, we have little time to reflect on weather we have got “how’s” and “whys” right

When agonizing over right and wrong ;when choosing the easy compromise over a more complicated but possible better option , Vivekananda belief act as benchmark. “He who is overcautious about himself faces danger at every step;he who is afraid of losing honor and disgrace; he who is afraid of loss, always losses” .Overcoming the fear of losing , not worrying incessantly about what the work-place may think of you, try to work for work sake.

Vivekananda also says to avoid looking wistfully , or with bitterness at what seem like more relevant and rewarding roles than your own.” No man can long occupy a position for which he is not fit. By doing well the duty which is near to us, which is in our hands now, we make over selves stronger and improving our strength in this manner, we may reach a state in which it shall be our privilege to do the most coveted duties….”

Ergo, you’ll get what you deserve not what you desire; so work primarily to change what you deserve and the rest will follow. He advocates neither submissiveness nor envy.

A calm perspective yields contentment as opposed to the feeling of dissatisfaction that often overwhelms us at work.” We find ourselves in the position for which we are fit , and if one has some capacity above another, the world will find that too…”

He reminds us that “we are all apt to think too highly of ourselves. We determine what our duties are to much larger extent, than we are willing to admit. Competition arouses envy, and kills the kindliness of the heart”

In the course of moving up the professional ladder. you are tempted to agree more with yourself. Then comes the inclination to bring others in to your fold , and convert them to your point of view. But a lesson that Vivekananda learnt from Sri Ramakrishna is one that you and I could learn too. Ramakrishna shied away from the weakness that sainthood brings, of preaching to ensure a following.

Vivekananda explains;” His principle was ,first form a character ,and result will come of themselves…Be in no hurry to give your thoughts to others, First have something to give! Know truth for yourself , and there will be many to whom you can teach it afterwards, they will all come”

We first need to improve on what we have give, and not hasten to teach pr preach, believing we have learnt enough. If we hone our skills and build our character, those who wish to acquire them from us will come of their own accord; we need not rush to act as dispensers of wisdom. Let’s make a beginning by improving ourselves first

I can not afford the dishonesty of saying its creation of mine. I had read it somewhere and could not forget it for years. The author who wrote it is “Anshul Chaturvedi”

The encounter with extreme

The incident took place before two years but it has always been in my memory so fresh as if it was yesterday.

I was at my hometown during the holy vacation, for those who don’t know holy, It is the typical Indian festival which is celebrated by applying colors to your loved ones.

It is celebrated to remember the idea of victory of faith over adversities. (The Prahalad’s story, remind me if you want to hear it)

So I was at home surrounded by warmth and comfort of it. Someone has written it very truly HOME SWEET HOME. It was morning of holy and I took my time to get up and move to our lawn with my typical sluggish movement.

Suddenly I was hit by the current of cold air and a pricking sensation of bathing in Ice. It was awfully cold outside. I pet my dog and gave it hot milk to cope up with the cold.

And there I heard a meek sound and blur figure behind the iron bars of gate. I had reached to main gate and was face to face with a 5 year old boy.Inspite of the bone shivering cold he was topless and trying to tell me something.

Stunned with his appearance I was standing there like an accused in front of jury. I asked him again what he was looking for, from the expressions of his hand he explained me he was hungry from last night and looking for some food.

In no time I had followed that it was hunger which had over come cold for the boy and he was out looking to get rid of devil in stomach first.

It just happened automatically and I saw my self removing my thick woolen jacket and wrapping him in it.

I had a quick run to the kitchen and returned with chapattis of last night with some vegetables, which he munched with utmost pleasure on the spot. When he bid me farewell I noticed the continuous bark of my dog .Petting and reassuring it I was trying to realize the bitter truth of life with wet eyes.


In the country like India where I have seen people around me spending thousands and lacks of rupee on entertainment and luxury. Do we have any one , any body who has time to think about this boy and millions of people like this.

Is it really justified to enjoy luxury when we have so much financial diversion in our own society ?